On relationship

Some say relationships shouldn't be hard work because, after all, it is assumed that you will have controlled most determinants in a relationship like the compatibility between you and the partner you have chosen, the time in your life when you decide to enter into a relationship, the level of interdependency, and so forth.

But then you have another group of people with different beliefs, who will say that you have to "work" at relationships. Because like most things, relationships are difficult, they are not perfect and they need to be nurtured. There are many things influencing which direction the relationship grows that are beyond one's control even including the two people in the relationship. People change and they are the least predictable of all variables.